A Life Lesson From A Long Ago Leader

"All men are approachable at some time or in some way. It is very imprudent to rush at everybody as soon as you see them..."  These words seemed to come alive as I read them today while putting the finishing touches on Sunday's sermon.  They are not original to me, Charles Spurgeon penned these words in 1880 in preparation for a sermon of his own.  Over a century has passed since God gave Spurgeon this inspired thought, yet while our linguistic patterns have shifted the powerful message of Spurgeon's declaration still rings true.  I am inspired to share a larger portion of His May 9, 1880 message, confident that it will offer the same challenge to you as well:

If I desire the salvation of anyone I ought to tell him as best as I can what his condition is, and what the way of salvation is, and how he may find rest. All men are approachable at some time or in some way. It is very imprudent to rush at everybody as soon as you see them, without thought or ordinary prudence, for you may disgust those whom you wish to win: but those who earnestly plead for others, and bestir themselves to seek them, are generally taught of God, and so they are made wise as to time, manner, and subject. A man who wishes to shoot birds will, after a while, become expert in the sport, because he will give his mind to it: he will after a little practice become a noted marksman and know all about guns and dogs. A man who wants to catch salmon has his heart set upon his angling, and becomes absorbed in the pursuit. He soon learns how to use his rod and how to manage his fish. So he who longs to win souls, and puts his heart into it, finds out the knack of it by some means, and the Lord gives him success.

 I could not teach it to you, you must practice in order to find out; but this I will say, no man is clear of his fellows’ blood simply because he has prayed to be so. Supposed we had around this parish of Newington a number of people who were dying of hunger, and we were to have a prayer meeting that God would relive their wants: would it not be hypocrisy worthy to be ridiculed and help up to reprobation if, after having prayed for these people, we all went home and ate our own dinners and did not give them a farthing’s worth of bread? The truly benevolent man puts his hand in his pocket and says, “What can I do that my prayer may be answered?” I have heard of one who prayed in New York for a certain number of very poor families that he had visited, and he asked the Lord that they might be fed and clothed. His little sons said, “Father, if I were God I should tell you to answer your own prayer, for you have plenty of money.” Thus the Lord might well say to us when we have been interceding, “Go and answer your own prayer by telling your friends of my Son.” Do you sing, “Fly abroad, thou mighty Gospel”? Then give it wings covered with silver. Do you sing, “Waft, waft, ye winds, his story”? Then spend your breath for it. 

There is a power in your gifts; there is a power in your speech; use these powers. If you cannot personally do much, you can do a great deal by helping another to preach Christ: but chief and first you ought to do somewhat by your own hand, heart, and tongue. Go and teach the good and right way, and then shall your prayers be heard.

"Go ahead and teach the good and right way and then shall your prayers be heard."  A powerful challenge to respond to God's heart for the lost and see God respond to your heart.  

Why?

It is part of our human nature to ask the question, why?  When faced with the reality of unspeakable tragedy our initial response is to determine who can be held responsible... we want answers. All too often there are none.

I was challenged today by the comments of a good friend:

We look to blame. When the dust settles, democrats will blame republicans; republicans will blame democrats. Somebody will say we don’t have enough gun control. Somebody will say we have too much gun control. Somebody will blame Obama. Somebody will blame Bush. Somebody will blame the violence in our culture. Somebody will blame video games.

Already some of my well-meaning Christian friends have used this tragedy to soap-box about election results, taking prayer out of schools and America turning her back on God, etc. etc.

PLEASE just shut up.

Now is not the time for preaching and condemnation. Now is the time for sadness, mourning, love, grace. Somebody said a few moments ago on the news that this is a sign that it’s time for America to go running back to God. I completely disagree.

There is a time for repentance and I believe America needs to repent, BUT the beauty of Christmas is that God comes to US. God is not sitting in heaven waiting for America to run back to Him today. God is running toward Newtown, Connecticut. His heart is grieved by evil. Just as we have all seen those parents and grandparents running to reunite with their children and grandchildren today, God is running toward His kids.

God hold us all in your loving arms.

You've Got To Do Your Own Growing No Matter How Tall Your Grandfather Is

A conversation earlier today reminded me of a blog entry I posted several years ago, and after reviewing it I thought I would repost it:


In my personal reading this morning there was a thought that spoke volumes to me: "Nothing in your past guarantees that you will continue growing toward your potential in the future--not positions attained degrees earned, experience gained, awards received or fortunes acquired." It echoes the old Irish proverb, "You've got to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather is." It is all too easy for us to allow our past victories or failures to define us, and to live in past pain or former glory. No matter where we come from in our journey, where we go from here is our choice.

Moving forward requires a willingness to grow and an acceptance of change. Most people fight against change, especially when it affects them personally. Tolstoy said, "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." The ironic thing is, change is inevitable. Everyone has to deal with change, yet the growth change offers is optional. You can chose to grow through life's changes or you can fight it. If we are unwilling to change or grow we will never reach our full potential.

My prayer for you is that God will place within you a willingness to grow and change in whatever ways necessary to reach your full potential in Christ... because He has great things in store for you.

"For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height -- to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God."
Ephesians 3:14-19

A Pilgrim's Perspective

“Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful…"

There are approximately 6.4 million U.S. citizens living abroad—students at universities in Mexico City and Manila, members of trade delegations in Peking and Pnom Phen, embassy staff in Jerusalem and Johannesburg, newspaper reporters in Moscow and Madrid — and this Thursday most, in some way, will take time to observe Thanksgiving. However well they connect with their host country's culture the other 364 days of the year, on Thursday they will be very consciously American. 

Many other nations give thanks, of course. The Hebrew people have been celebrating the ingathering of the harvest since the earliest times. In Canada, Thanksgiving Day is celebrated in early October... mostly because by the end of November it is much too cold to be thankful for much of anything J. One of the most popular services in a British church, often crowding Christmas and Easter for prominence, is Harvest Home. Folks in small parish churches scattered across the English countryside decorate the sanctuary by piling upon the altar the produce from farm, field, and garden.  Mankind has sought expressions of  thanksgiving for the harvest since the dawn of creation.

Yet for most of us that idea of Thanksgiving is an anachronism. Few of us earn our living by working in a field and only a very small percentage till up that plot of ground in the backyard to produce a crop (love the veggies Mom & Dad). In short, the harvest has little to do with typical life these days. And yet, each November we celebrate it still by taking a day off from work, eat until we can't consider another bite, and watch parades and football on television.  

That’s all well and good for your average harvest festival, but the truth about Thanksgiving, as far as the United States of America is concerned, is that it was intended to be much more than a simple expression of gratitude for a good yield of produce. The original design of this November holiday was significantly more profound.  Thanksgiving is most emphatically a celebration of the birth of a nation and a statement of devoted thankfulness to God for His faithful hand upon this great land of ours.  Thanksgiving is an intentional connection with that small company of pilgrims who landed at Plymouth Rock and laid the foundations of a new world founded on life and liberty.  These pilgrims came for reasons of faith, not fortune. They, in the language of the New Testament, "showed plainly that they desired a better country"—not only a life without poverty, but a life without fear, a life in which they could obey God and serve Him according to conscience.  The songs we sing at Thanksgiving include not only, "Give Thanks with a Grateful Heart" but also "Land where my father’s died, Land of the Pilgrim’s pride, From every mountainside, Let freedom ring!"  The word "pilgrim" has vastly extended its range since 1620. Wave after wave of pilgrims have surged to the United States of America stubbornly determined to carve out a new life. And whether the pilgrims were English or German, Hungarian or Irish (God’s favorite); they were all seeking liberty to breathe, act, think, and worship in their own way.

Unfortunately, the truth about Thanksgiving is that the pilgrim consciousness disappeared from the national life for a long period of time. It was 240 years after our ancestors first sank a knee at Plymouth that Thanksgiving was reinstated on the calendar and proclaimed as an official holiday; and that was done when things were going quite badly. Sir Isaac Newton once said, "all nations grow odious in prosperity." While I am not sure that is true, it does seem they grow careless. Sadly, it took the tragedy of the Civil War and the scarred spirit of Abraham Lincoln to recall our pilgrim heritage, hoping that remembering the devoted disposition of our forefathers might in some way soothe our nation’s hurting heart.

In Lincoln’s words: "We have forgotten the Gracious Hand which preserved us in peace, and multiplied and strengthened us, and vainly imagined all these blessings were produced by some superior virtue or wisdom of our own. Intoxicated by unbroken success we have become too self-sufficient to feel the necessity for redeeming and preserving grace, too proud to pray to the God who made us."

Thanksgiving as we now know it was a stroke of genius that Lincoln sought to bind up the nation’s wounds by instilling in a divided national heart its former unity. His attempt was to bring North and South together by recalling their pilgrim beginnings. On October 3, 1863, Abraham Lincoln issued the first national Thanksgiving proclamation:  "In the midst of a civil war of unequal magnitude and severity . . . I invite my fellow citizens in every part of the United States . . . to set apart and observe the last Thursday of November next as a day of thanksgiving and praise to our beneficent Father . . . And I recommend they fervently implore the interposition of the Almighty’s hand to heal the wounds of the nation and to restore it as may be consistent with the Divine purpose to the full enjoyment of peace, harmony, tranquility and union."

We all tend to romanticize the past, but it is practically impossible to over-idealize the Pilgrims. They had tremendous courage in venturing to the New World, leaving their homeland and families in order to establish an intellectual, educational, and spiritual community in a foreign land. The truth about Thanksgiving is that, for Americans, it is more than a harvest festival—it is a time to remember the sacrifices and accomplishments of those who have gone before us, and God’s hand of blessing that was so evidently upon them.

Now is the time to thank God for those things He has allowed us to accomplish. Few persons beg for new opportunities at Thanksgiving time. Instead we enjoy the rich blessings God has already given us. The harvest is in, so to speak.  It is quite clear to each one of us what he or she will have accomplished by the end of the year. Therefore, Thanksgiving is a time of remembrance, yes—it is a time for gratitude, yes—it is a time of celebration and enjoyment. But let us celebrate in the spirit of the hymn writer, who said: All good gifts around us are sent from heaven above; Then thank the Lord, O thank the Lord for all His love. J 

After The Last Ballot

President Obama and Governor Romney are each finishing their last lap around the country... the debates have been debated.... $1.7 billion has been spent in attempt to convince us not to vote for the other guy....  Political pundits and late night talk show hosts have talked endlessly about the election....  Friends and coworkers have passionately shared how they think we should vote....  Thankfully, in a few short hours the campaigns will come to a close and the decision will be made.  Tomorrow morning polling places across the country will be filled with voters casting their ballot for the candidate of their choice.  Our vote is both a tremendous right and a civic responsibility.  But, what do we do after the ballot has been cast?

Paul's challenge to Timothy is a powerful statement to us, " I urge, then, first of all, that requests, prayers,  intercession and thanksgiving be made for everyone—  for kings and all those in authority,  that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness  and holiness.   This is good, and pleases God our Savior."    God's Word provides great wisdom on what our post-election disposition should be:

Paul's admonition instructs us to "first of all"  take a posture of request and prayer.  This is a vivid reminder that we are to look to God as our source.  It is so easy to lose perspective and as a result have misguided passion.  The realization that "every good and perfect gift comes from the Father" fuels a healthy dedication to God. 

Paul further encourages us to intercede for those who are in positions of leadership.  1 Peter reminds us that we are to honor those who are in positions of authority, without any allowance or exclusion if we are not in agreement with their leadership approach.  A powerful truth is that  prayer has a remarkable way of filtering our thoughts and guarding our emotions.  Simply said, it is tough to hate something/someone you pray for regularly.

Finally, this directive of Paul implores us to be thankful for those in authority.  We can be confident that kingdoms rise and fall in accordance with God's will.  Solomon states in Proverbs 19, that "many are the plans of man, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails."  Our current position might not allow us to recognize how God is using those in authority, yet we can trust the promises of His Word.  

Our democratic process is a key part of what makes our country great.  Our ability to freely share our praise/problems with those pursuing political office is a vital part of our democracy.  Our right to passionately endorse the candidate of our choice is both a right and a responsibility.  We are blessed to live in a nation that is free.  It is with that freedom in mind we close with Peter's declaration, "Live as free men,  but do not use your freedom as a cover–up for evil;  live as servants of God.  Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers,  fear God, honor the king." 

Happy Voting!!!  

It Really Was A Dark And Stormy Night

“…for such a time as this.”

So many writers have begun with the words, “It was a dark and stormy night.”    Yet, if I were to write the story of the defining moment in my life I would have to begin with those words.  A dimly lit, rain soaked street and drunk driver running late for work proved to be no match for a teenager on a bicycle; and in a moment my world changed.  In the aftermath of a horrific collision that left my bicycle mangled beneath the front bumper of a station wagon and found me with a broken leg lying in the grass, my focus quickly changed from school and Friday night’s game to life and destiny.  Earlier in the day I enjoyed the first day of school, the beginning of my  high school junior year.    A typical school day was followed by a late football practice, under the lights in anticipation of our first game of the season.  It seemed like so many days I had lived before, but it would prove to be a day I would never forget… a defining moment.

Biblical and church history is filled with those who were engaged in the routine of life when their defining moment became evident.  David was tending his father’s flocks when Samuel sent for him to be anointed as the future King of Israel.  Gideon was threshing wheat in a winepress when the angel of the Lord appeared and commissioned him to lead the armies of Israel.  James and John were preparing for a day of fishing when Jesus' call changed their life forever.  Esther was a young Jewish girl living in relative obscurity when Ahasuerus, King of Persia chose her as his queen; a position that would afford her the opportunity to save her people from the evil plot of Haman.  Her uncle brought to her attention the defining moment when he challenged her with the thought, “perhaps you have come into the kingdom for such a time as this?”  Esther’s response is a model for all who desire to see God’s power in their life:  I will do what is right and “If I perish, I perish!”

Each one of us have our defining moments, those times when the ordinary has the potential to become extraordinary and our destiny can be forever changed.  The definition of our life is determined in large part by how we respond in those moments.  More often than not our decision will involve some risk, potentially a great deal of risk.  The temptation is to maintain the status quo, to avoid the risk, to play it safe.  Yet, those who have significant Kingdom impact and have become heroes in the faith consistently chose to accept challenge and see God take them beyond the risk to the reward.

History will show, should the Lord tarry, that 2012 will prove to be a defining moment for those who endeavor live as fully devoted Christ followers.  The risks involved in our faith journey and the challenge of fulfilling God’s mandate before us provide a huge platform for God to do the miraculous.... this will be an exciting adventure.

Trust God in those defining moments, take those risks when He presents opportunity, allow the Holy Spirit to guide you through new territory.  An exciting adventure awaits!

The Ice Cream Man

I have a confession to make. I hate the ice cream man. He takes a nice content moment and turns it into cravings for something my children don’t need and can’t afford – and turns contentment into discontentment. But there’s an awful lot of ice cream trucks out there, aren’t there? They don’t all go around with children’s music piping out of their speakers – but they can make us feel discontent no matter what we have.

For me they are things like “For sale” signs in front of homes we can’t quite afford, classified ads for cars that are nicer and newer than what I drive, going to people’s homes where they have much nicer furniture or really cool home stereo systems. Just as worry and anxiety can steal our joy and keep us from living a fulfilled life, discontentment can do just the same thing. If we want to be joyful, somehow we’ll have to discover a way to find contentment in our present situation.

Want some good news? No matter what is happening in your life, you can know contentment. God’s word tells us how to do it:

First, He tell us that Contentment is a Learned State. Contentment is not something that comes naturally. Paul said that he had to“learn to be content”

Secondly, Contentment is Not Found in Possessions or Circumstances!
“ know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.”
Scripture declares that regardless of our circumstances, whether we have money or not, whether we have abundance or are in a very strained circumstances, we can still have contentment because the secret is something other than what we do or do not possess. Paul tells Timothy that we start with nothing and we end with nothing. So contentment is not about what we accumulate, it is about living with satisfaction one day after another. “Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have….”

Third, Contentment Comes From Learning To Appreciate What We Have in Jesus Christ.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” True contentment comes from living life understanding that everything pales in comparison to knowing Christ.

Consider this: US News and World Report did a study on the American Dream. The story said that for Americans with household incomes of under $25,000, polls showed these people believed it would take $54,000 to fulfill the American dream in their lives. The same survey also showed that for those who make $100,000, they’d like to make about $192,000 for their version of the American dream.

In other words, the American Dream usually lies nearly twice the distance away, at least financially.

So if the secret to being content is not in amassing personal wealth or getting everything you want, how can we know contentment?

What is the secret? “I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” Paul echoes the teaching of Jesus, when he said "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

It doesn’t get much clearer, does it? Apart from Christ we can do nothing of lasting value in our lives, but we can do everything through Christ who gives us strength. One of those “everythings” is finding contentment in all situations.

Whether we are experiencing plenty or want in our life right now – the secret to being content is staying connected to Jesus. It is HIS strength that will provide the contentment we need. It is HIS power that will help us find hope even when the cupboards are bare.

When we spend time on a regular basis praying to Jesus, studying God’s Word, and surrendering our life to the power of the Holy Spirit, we discover that no matter what else is going on in our life – we feel more content. Why? Because when we’re living our life connected to Jesus Christ, we come to understand that nothing happens to us without His knowledge. Nothing that happens, either good or bad, can take us away from God’s love, and He has our final destination in mind!

A Christmas Lesson From Rudolph

“Rudolph with your nose so bright, won’t you guide my sleigh tonight?” As I take a few moments to write a devotional thought, this familiar family classic is on television. A reindeer with a glowing nose and an elf with dreams of becoming a dentist discover that if you press on through adversity dreams can come true. We all love the idea of an adventure. Even as children we recognized the idea of finding a lost treasure or embarking on an epic journey seemed to be woven into our core character. Our childhood dreams were filled with wonder, and in those dreams we became all our heart desired and hopes held. We believed that Rudolph could guide the sleigh and Hermey had the ability to become a dentist. The truly wonderful aspect of childhood is we never had to consider the cost.

James and John grew up on the water. As young boys they would play along the shore as their father, Zebedee would mend the nets. They had escaped the heat of countless Summer days by swimming off the dock while awaiting their father’s return from a day on the lake in search of fish. Those childhood years along the Galilean seashore were filled with wonder, two brothers wide-eyed dreams of adventure.

“Going on from there, he saw two other brothers, James son of Zebedee and his brother John. They were in a boat with their father Zebedee, preparing their nets. Jesus called them, and immediately they left the boat and their father and followed him.”

Matthew 4:21-22

Their childhood days over, James and John were now old enough to assume a greater role in the family business. They were fishermen, just as their father, grandfather, etc. It was who they were. At least it was who they were until “Come, follow me.” It was a simple statement requiring a simple response. The cost however was not so simple. Family expectations, an unknown future, and social pressure meant this seemingly simple response required the resolve of countless questions.

“Truly I tell you,” Jesus said to them, “no one who has left home or wife or brothers or sisters or parents or children for the sake of the kingdom of God will fail to receive many times as much in this age, and in the age to come eternal life.” Luke 18:29-30

Many of those dreams from childhood can and should be passed off as juvenile fantasy. Others are seeds of the life calling God has for us. The key to determining which are mere fancy and which are our ordered steps will be found as we “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.”

James and John immediately left their nets because they had long before determined that the dream is worth the cost. Through the price paid dreams become reality and the manifold blessing of God is realized. Hermey became a dentist and Rudolph guided Santa’s sleigh, it as a heartwarming story. James and John paid the price and their story is told 2,000 years later. It makes one wonder, what story will be told of you?

Blessings!

What Jesus Think About Santa Claus

The outfit is unmistakable, the mode of transportation totally unique, and the occupation…. well that is an area were opinions differ widely. For some Santa Claus is the heart of the holiday season, for others he is a welcome diversion from the mundane of everyday life, and for others he is an unwelcome distraction from the real reason to celebrate this time of year.

My childhood home was a place where the story of the jolly bearded gift giver was readily told. Some of my most vivid childhood memories surround the story of Santa. I will never forget looking out the window hoping to catch a glimpse of Saint Nick and his sleigh only to find a teen-aged neighbor looking in the window… yikes! I can still see the room full of bicycles when “Santa” brought 8 bikes to our home, one for each of the children still living at home. It seems only yesterday when I discovered the truth regarding the reality of Santa Claus and forever changed the way I looked at this childhood hero.

I have sung the carols, watched the Christmas television specials, and once wore the red hat as volunteer bell ringer for the Salvation Army. All the while I gave very little thought to the fact and fiction surrounding Santa. There seemed to be no reason to debate the validity or value of the Santa story. Parenthood finally forced me to consider my views on Saint Nick. With the traditions of Santa Claus deeply woven into the culture of society and family, it was imperative I have an answer for my children that would reflect our values and stand the test of time. What did I tell my children? First some facts :)

THE FACTS – The story of Santa Claus finds its roots in the 4^th century AD in the life of Bishop Nicholas of Smyrna (modern day Turkey). Nicholas is believed to have been from a very wealthy family whose Godly parents died during an epidemic while he was quite young. Nicholas firmly embraced the faith of his parents, stayed committed to the church and eventually entered the priesthood. Nicholas showed his devotion to God in extraordinary kindness and generosity to those in need. Nicholas gave much of his family’s wealth away, with a special interest in the needs of children. Among the stories attributed to Nicholas is of him anonymously providing the dowries for a poor man with three daughters, saving them from the likelihood of slavery. Under the Roman Emperor Diocletian, who ruthlessly persecuted Christians, Bishop Nicholas suffered for his faith, was exiled and imprisoned. Upon his release he attended the Council of Nicea in 325, and eventually made his way back to Myra. He faithfully served God his entire life, demonstrating true humility, steadfastness of faith, and a compassionate heart.

Nicholas died in 343 AD on December 6. His life would soon after be commemorated with the “Feast of Nicholas” held each December 6^th. Over time numerous traditions became associated with these annual celebrations. On St. Nicholas' Eve, youngsters would set out food for the saint, straw for his horses and schnapps for his attendant. The next morning, obedient children awoke to find their gifts replaced with sweets and toys. With the Reformation the “Feast of Nicholas” and “Eve of Nicholas” all but disappeared from the calendar. Oddly, The Puritans contributed greatly to the secularization of Christmas, being strongly opposed to any Christmas celebration. As time passed the traditions of Christmas and the “Feast of Nicholas” morphed into our Christmas celebrations

There are certainly many other influences that have over time shaped and distorted the story of Saint Nicholas and brought us to our modern day Santa Claus. However, we would do well to tell the story of Santa’s origin and the Godly heart and determination of Santa’s namesake.

THE FIGHT - Santa has been blamed for the secularization of Christmas, and yet no historical figure other than Jesus has done more to bring attention to the celebration of Christ’s birth. Santa is often mistakenly attributed with the commercialization of Christmas gift-giving, yet even those who have no belief or tradition of Santa readily admit that the are prone to unhealthy excess in the Holiday season. Some have gone so far as to associate Santa with the satanic, yet the values demonstrated in Santa find no connection with Hell’s inhabitants. The true fight is not with Santa, it is with the distortions that have permeated the story over the years.

THE FRUIT - The challenge of looking beyond the trivial to the truth is as old as the story of Christmas itself, as King Herod could readily testify. I am convinced Charlie Brown’s best friend, Linus put it best when answering Chuck’s question of the true meaning of Christmas: “And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid. And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord. And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger. And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying, Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.’ “That’s the true meaning of Christmas Charlie Brown.”

THE FINAL WORD - I am convinced Jesus response to the question of His opinion regarding Santa Claus would be the same as Santa’s response regarding the question of his opinion of Jesus: “It is too bad that people don’t take the time to truly know him… because understanding who he really is has the potential to be life changing!”

By the way, Jodi and I explained to our children that imagination is a gift from God and the imaginary character of Santa Claus reminds us of a man who lived a long time ago whose devotion to God is worth remembering….. and modeling!

Merry Christmas!!!!

Ten Things I Think I Think - October 2010

1. The time is right for Steve Jobs to announce the new Apple ICar. If Apple were to make the Apple ICar it would look a lot like the latest Acura RL, that car is incredible.

2. It should be against the law for McDonalds to call it a McRib sandwich. You are not fooling us McDonalds…. But I do love the sweet tea!

3. I am so glad the midterm elections are just a few days away, and then we will be done with all of the angry advertisements. The current political climate in our nation leaves a great deal to be desired. I am hopeful that someone will actually address issues and leave the negative commentary regarding the opposing party alone.

4. If Apple announced the Apple Icar and it looked like the old AMC Pacer I would still be tempted to buy it…. As long as it wasn’t the Levis version. That car had denim interior and fake stitching in the exterior paint. It gave a whole new meaning to the word ugly.

5. There is an amazing window of opportunity for the church today to offer real answers.

6. This year we will put colored lights on the Christmas tree at the Garvin house. I don’t like them, but Jodi does. Most years she defers to my preference, this year she wins…. Don’t tell her! :)

7. Fox News uses the “Breaking News” tag way too often. If the news is over 24 hours old it is not “breaking”. I am just saying!

8. Pumpkin bars will be in Heaven. Pumpkiny goodness topped with mouthwatering icing, I can almost here the angels singing.

9. Our Missions Team at First Assembly of God Bloomington-Normal is outstanding. Hulda Buntain speaking in front of a 20 foot tall Taj Mahal, Michael McNamee joining us for a banquet with food from one of the areas top chefs, and Dwain Jones challenging us on Faith Promise Sunday. Very cool.

10. I am challenged to lead our church to a greater commitment to seek God with passion. The impact the Holy Spirit can have on us and we can have on our culture is massive.

By the way, I bet you are still thinking about the whole ICar idea. :)

Facebook Friendship

I know that facebook isn't “real” life, but i've decided just the same, never to delete a friend because they offend me. (bore me maybe) In the real world I can't just make people disappear. I either avoid them, ignore them or get used to them...hopefully i love them =)

This was a recent status update posted by one of my Facebook friends. The same day another status update stated, “ Friends, I am editing my friends list. there are so many people that I am not even sure who they are. If I delete you in error, please forgive me in advance and just request me to readd you. Thanks!”

These simple, yet profound statements beg the question, how do we define friendship in a Facebook world?

A quick glance at my profile on Facebook informs me that I currently have 1,314 friends. Among those listed are people I have known for years who are very dear to me, friends who have shared in my triumphs and tragedies. Also included are “Facebook Friends,” people I have never met who have requested to be my “friend” because of similar interests or similar friends. There are folks on my list who would rush to my aid in time of need, there are individuals classified as friends according to Facebook who likely would not recognize my name if I were to call. Do I truly have 1,314 friends? Is there a determining factor in friendship?

Friendship was so much easier to define on the schoolyard playground. A friend picked you first for kickball regardless of how good you were. A friend took care of you when your mother thought tuna fish was a good idea for a sack lunch. A friend came to your rescue when others began to call you names. The rare best friend embraced all of these qualities and more. David Lane was such a friend, so a trickle of blood flowed from the pin prick in my finger as I handed the needle taken from my mother’s sewing kit and handed it to the person I was sure to be the best friend in the world. David took the needle, pricked his finger, and as we pressed our fingers together we became “blood brothers,” a designation we knew nothing could separate…. Lifelong friends!

While I am grateful that the concept of “blood brothers” did not join me in the transition from the childhood friendships to adult relationships, there is a great deal we can learn about true friendship by revisiting our childhood connections. Lessons that stand in stark contrast to the Facebook friendship philosophy that has become all too prevalent. Here are a few thoughts:

1. Friends cannot simply remove someone from a friends list -

True friendship does not exist without forgiveness - Friendship requires that we are kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another just as God in Christ Jesus has forgiven us. It is impossible to have genuine relationship without walking through conflict. The strength of the friendship is not determined by the amount of conflict, it is determined by the health of the conflict resolution. It is all too easy to delete people from our friends list that we have no relationship with. Unfortunately, our Facebook culture has diminished our understanding of friendship to the point that we are way too comfortable deleting genuine friends from our life rather than dealing with conflict that will lead to stronger relationship. Proverbs 17:9 says, “Love forgets mistakes.” Loyalty was understood and valued on the grade school playground!

2. Friendship hurts sometimes –

“Dude, that is what you are wearing on picture day… you look so silly!” Billy Kramer made this statement as I arrived at the bus stop. A quick sprint to his house and a borrowed shirt saved me from a yearbook disaster. Faithful are the wounds of a friend!

We have to be open, honest, frank. Proverbs 24:26 rings true, “An honest answer is the sign of a true friendship.” Being candid and being connected go together. We don’t have one without the other. Genuine, healthy, deep, meaningful relationships are built on honesty not on flattery. If you’ve got somebody who’s kissing up to you, always telling you what you want to hear, they don’t really love you. They’re using you. Flattery is a sign of a manipulator, not a sign of somebody who’s genuinely your friend. Genuine friendships, genuine relationships are candid. They’ll tell you when you’ve got spinach in your teeth. They’ll tell you when you’re blowing it. They’ll tell you when you’re wasting your life, making a dumb, bad decision. Why, because healthy relationships are built on honesty. All of us have blind spots. The question that really matters is, do you have anybody in your life that loves you enough to point them out? Who cares enough to say, “You need to work on this.” Thanks again Billy!!!!!

3. Friendship requires that we are mindful of our words –

True friendship demands that we are mindful with our words, understanding the power of the pen and the power of the tongue. It is too easy to write a manipulative status update or critical comment. Friends understand the value of praising in public and correcting in private. A friend will live out Ephesians 4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

4. Friendship is more than words –

When someone speaks to you face-to-face the percentage of the meaning that is actually in the words, as opposed to the body language and tone of voice is 7 percent. The other 93 percent is nonverbal, according to studies. Yes the studies are real and No, I don't know how they arrived at that exact number. But we didn't need it. I mean, come on. Most of our humor is sarcasm, and sarcasm is just mismatching the words with the tone. Like my friend's "No, thank you." You don't wait for a girl to verbally tell you she likes you. It's the sparkle in her eyes, her posture, or the way she looks at you. When we're living in the land of Facebook, all that is stripped away. There's a weird side effect to it, too: absent a sense of the other person's mood, every line we read gets filtered through our own mood instead. The reason I read my friend's chili message as sarcastic was because I was in an irritable mood. In that state of mind, I was eager to be offended. And worse, if I do enough of my communicating this way, my mood never changes. After all, people keep saying nasty things to me! Of course I'm depressed! It's me against the world!

Friends, Much of who we are is a product of our friendships. “As iron sharpens iron, so one sharpens another.” I am a reflection of the 1,314+ people that I count as friends. I can not delete you from my life without deleting a part of me. I will be your friend even when it is painful. I will do my best to watch my words and make sure that I make the necessary connections with you to communicate what truly needs to be said beyond mere words. I appreciate the honesty of the two status updates I shared at the beginning of this note, but have determined that I want to adopt the first as my own…

I know that facebook isn't “real” life, but i've decided just the same, never to delete a friend because they offend me. (bore me maybe) In the real world I can't just make people disappear. I either avoid them, ignore them or get used to them...hopefully i love them =)

Have a great day friend!